一百分小孩VS五十分小孩

名人推薦：洪蘭 國立中央大學認知神經科學研究所教授兼所長　
童年該被犧牲嗎？把書念好最重要嗎？當然不是，童年只有一次，人生有比把書念好更重要的事。

考試第一名的人，長大後才會出人頭地嗎？這完全沒有實驗證據的支持。

書念不好的小孩，以後就沒希望嗎？只要看檯面上成功的人絕大部分不是書念的好的人就知道了。

成績樣樣一百分的孩子是不是就叫做「優秀」？績優不等於資優。

成績總是差強人意的孩子是不是就叫做「不優秀」？同上。

為了讓孩子長大後成為體制內「優秀」的精英份子，是不是應該讓孩子從小拼命補習，...

楔子：
「幸福的故事」，都是從一個女人和一個男人的相遇開始的：
相戀的男女共同找到了「幸福的密碼」，於是組成了「幸福的家庭」，培育出「幸福
的小孩」，創造了「幸福的童年」 ，陪伴出「幸福的成長」 ，養成了「幸福的男女」 ，
於是，再一次，在另一個世代裡，有了「幸福的相遇」 ，組合出「幸福的家庭」 ，「幸
福的密碼」世世代代傳遞下去……

此書無關乎兩性意識型態，謹以開放的心胸，誠摰地獻給每一位喜歡幸福的大人和小
孩。祝福每一位讀者都找到你的「幸福密碼」，並珍惜它，你將一生擁有。

Happy story begins from an encounter between a woman and a man.
The couple in love finds their happiness code, and forms a happy family, cultivates happy kids , creates happy childhood, and nurtures happy man and woman. Therefore, once again, we have a happy encounter, and form a happy family, happy code and will pass down generation after generation.

This book has nothing to do with gender issues, dedicating to everyone who likes happiness. I wish every reader can find your happiness, cherish it, and you will posses it for life.

成長的背景Background of Growing Up
一百分小孩從小就絕頂聰明，引人注目。
五十分小孩從小就平凡無奇，受人忽略。
Since childhood, A Plus Kid is extraordinarily brilliant, outstanding.
Since childhood, Average Kid is ordinary and common, being neglected.

一百分小孩考試總是100分。
五十分小孩考試很少100分。
A Plus Kid always scores A Plus during examinations.
Average Kid seldom scores A Plus.

一百分小孩=樣樣精通的小孩。
五十分小孩=樣樣普通的小孩。
A Plus Kid equals to the kid who is good at everything.
Average Kid equals to the kid who is common in every performance.

心路的歷程Spiritual journey
一百分小孩的父母總要求一百分。
五十分小孩的父母只要求能及格。
Parents of A Plus Kid always demand him to score A Plus.
Parents of Average Kid only ask her to have average score.

一百分小孩不知道為何非要100分？但卻擔心自己沒有100分。
五十分小孩不明白為何非要100分？早已習慣自己沒有100分。
A Plus Kid does not know why he need to score A Plus but worries that he does not have A Plus.
Average Kid does not understand why people need to score A Plus, but not scoring A Plus is normal to her.

一百分小孩喜歡出類拔萃，不能接受成為第二名。
五十分小孩喜歡廣交朋友，相信人生處處有花朵。
A Plus Kid likes to be outstanding, and cannot accept to be the second.
Average Kid likes to make many friends, and believes beauty exists in everywhere in life.

一百分小孩=第一名小孩。
五十分小孩=隨遇而安的小孩。
A Plus Kid equals to the number one kid.
Average Kid means she is easily adapt to the environment.

改變的命運Destiny Changes
當一百分小孩發現自己沒有100分，就沒有掌聲時，突然感到人生無趣。
當五十分小孩努力超越及格線，獲得無數的鼓勵時，開始覺得人生充滿希望。
When A Plus Kid finds out once he does not obtain A Plus scores, he will not have applause, and suddenly he feels life is boring.
When Average Kid tries hard to get more than average scores, she will obtain numerous encouragements, and she starts to feel life is full of hopes.

一百分小孩困惑人生什麼是對？什麼是錯？
五十分小孩困惑人生什麼是得？什麼是失？
A Plus Kid questions what is right or wrong in life.
Average Kid questions what is gain and lost in life.

歲月流轉，一百分小孩體會出自己的強與弱。
時光流逝，五十分小孩領悟到自己的價與值。
Time flies, A Plus Kid realizes his strength and weakness.
Time passes, Average Kid realizes her value.

一百分小孩的天賦加努力，讓他依舊保持競賽中的第一。
五十分小孩的天賦加努力，讓他逐漸成為特色中的唯一。
The talent of the A Plus Kid plus effort, makes him maintain the champion in competitions
The talent of the Average Kid plus effort, makes her gradually be the unique one.

一百分小孩=一支獨秀的小孩。
五十分小孩=善於合作的小孩。
A Plus Kid outshines others.
Average Kid is good at team works.

幸福的覺醒The awakening of happiness
當一百分小孩遇到了五十分小孩，一百分小孩羡慕五十分小孩的怡然自得。
當五十分小孩遇到了一百分小孩，五十分小孩仰慕一百分小孩的聰明優秀。
When A Plus Kid meets Average Kid, A Plus Kid envies the happy and contented Average Kid.
When Average Kid meets A Plus Kid, Average Kid admires the brilliance and outstanding A Plus Kid.

人生真是奇妙 !
一百分小孩擁有五十分小孩沒有的一切。
五十分小孩卻帶給一百分小孩沒有的另一切。
他們因此深深地相戀……
Life is full of miracle.
A Plus Kid posses something that Average Kid does not have.
Average Kid can bring something that A Plus Kid does not have.
Hence they are deeply in love…

一百分小孩與五十分小孩的覺醒組合，
讓完美小孩的不完美；
和不完美小孩的完美，
交織成一首美妙的奏鳴曲。
The combination of the incompleteness of the A Plus Kid and the completeness of Average Kid intertwine a beautiful sonata.

他們才終於明白一個最簡單的道理：
原來，珍視彼此, 幸福在此。
They finally understand a simple truth, cherish each other, happiness is always there.

後記
不管你覺得自己是一百分小孩，還是五十分小孩，都別忘了，要先往內看自己，
了解自己最想要、和最適合的究竟是什麼？這才是最重要的一件事。你就是你。
每個人都有擅長和不擅長之處，端視他人看你的角度而有所不同，
但我們可以深信的是～天生我材必有用，樂觀努力永受用。
認清自己的才能，就能發掘生命的價值所在，我們每一天都在善用自己最棒的天賦和努力，追求屬於自己的100分生活，成就屬於自己獨一無二的人生。
我們的下一代，也將因你而相信：人生有夢，終必實現！

Whether you are A Plus Kid, or Average Kid, please don’t forget, we should look from the inner part, to understand what we need and suit. That's the most important thing. You are who you are.
Everyone has its advantage and disadvantage, which depends on how people look at you. But we believe that everyone is blessed with its own talent and it is important to be optimistic and make a lot of effort.

Know our talent, then we can explore the value of life. Everyday we make good use of our talent and pursue our own A Plus life, achieving our unique life. Our next generation will achieve their dream as you believe dream in life!

楔子：
「幸福的故事」，都是從一個女人和一個男人的相遇開始的：
相戀的男女共同找到了「幸福的密碼」，於是組成了「幸福的家庭」，培育出「幸福
的小孩」，創造了「幸福的童年」 ，陪伴出「幸福的成長」 ，養成了「幸福的男女」 ，
於是，再一次，在另一個世代裡，有了「幸福的相遇」 ，組合出「幸福的家庭」 ，「幸
福的密碼」世世代代傳遞下去……

此書無關乎兩性意識型態，謹以開放的心胸，誠摰地獻給每一位喜歡幸福的大人和小
孩。祝福每一位讀者都找到你的「幸福密碼」，並珍惜它，你將一生擁有。

Happy story begins ...

童年該被犧牲嗎？把書念好最重要嗎？

考試第一名的人，長大後才會出人頭地嗎？

書念不好的小孩，以後就沒希望嗎？

成績樣樣一百分的孩子是不是就叫做「優秀」？

成績總是差強人意的孩子是不是就叫做「不優秀」？

為了讓孩子長大後成為體制內「優秀」的精英份子，是不是應該讓孩子從小拼命補習，加強課業？晚睡早起無遊戲？只求贏在起跑點及往後的每一點？

需要嗎？其實不需要！！！

人生的終極目標是要獲得幸福，但幸福並非等於學校考試成績或是比賽成績。

聽過一個說法嗎？從小成績名列前十名的小孩，長大出社會以後，會成為替班上中後段的小孩提皮箱的人，過著「能者多勞」的人生，為什麼？因為他們從小就被訓練過著保守而有基礎保障的人生，不會冒險打拼。但成績平庸的小孩，或許是少了勝名之累、
或許是少了人生標準答案、或許是為了爭取一個生存的機會，所以容易去嘗試各種可能
性，也容易去接受各種失敗，終至事業有成。

凡事都很優秀，也不代表人生一定飛黃騰達，終獲幸福。

所以，書念不好的小孩，並不代表一生就與幸福絕緣，因為學業成功「不等於」幸福人生。人生有太多面向必須去兼顧，也有太多道路可以去發展，人生就像一個探險遊戲，你永遠無法在一開始就知道人生的答案，所以不需替凡事早早下定論。

那麼，究竟該如何看待教育孩子這項重責大任？請去發現孩子的天賦，並以正面價值去培養孩子的強項吧！讓他帶著自信和愉快一路走向人生之路。

什麼是孩子的天賦？那些天賦值得培養？

孩子輕而易舉就表現優於同儕的能力，就是孩子的天賦。用心關注你的孩子，你一定能發現，因為每個孩子都定有過人之處。它可能是技能、知識、運動、藝術、口語表達、創造力或人格特質。

會讓孩子自動自發努力練習，精進自我天賦，企圖成為卓越強者的項目，就代表那是孩子的興趣！也就是你應該幫助孩子重點培育的天賦，讓他一生受用。

每一個孩子，必定都有他的天賦及獨特性，順著這個「養育密碼」來看待孩子，那麼，
每一個孩子都是值得我們去重視的未來。多看看孩子有的，少想著孩子沒有的。幸福的未來需要幸福的童年支持，所以不需要、也千萬不要去犧牲孩子歡笑的童年時光。充份遊戲很重要！！

別忘了，全力栽培後，無論孩子是出色或不出色，他都仍是值得被欣賞、被疼愛的孩子，並同樣具有那與生俱來，追求幸福的權利。

如果你是符合體制評分標準的一百分小孩，恭喜你！得以充滿自信和掌聲的長大，但別忘了世界是為每一個人而運轉的，每一個人都因其獨特的價值而存在，真誠地看待他人，他人將為你造福。

如果你像我一樣，在體制內只能算是個五十分小孩，別氣餒！向內在發掘你那屬於體制外的天才，珍惜你的過人之處，在這個世界一樣能無比幸福地活著！

請相信，世上沒有被幸福放棄的人，只有自己放棄幸福的人，所以永遠記得去發揮自己的天賦，讓自己站在幸福的這一邊：成為自己的「識貨人」 ，和孩子的「識貨人」。

開始寫作，創作這本書，都是源於一百分小孩的鼓勵，我愛他！也謝謝他！所以我將此生的第一本書獻給最肯定我這五十分小孩的一百分小孩。

美米，一個認真在自己的小世界裡實踐「珍惜幸福行動」的作者：快樂於創作「幸福的故事」，專注於凝聚「幸福的光芒」，祈願以故事溫暖每一顆「渴望幸福」的心。

Should childhood be sacrificed? Should study be the most important thing?

Should the one who scores the best be the outstanding person?

For the kids who are not good at studying, will they hopeless in the future?

Kids who score A Plus should be named as “outstanding”?

Kids who are average in academic should be named as not outstanding? Should we send kids go to cram schools, improving school scores and make them go to bed late and wake up early so that they will not lose at the starting point?

Is that a necessity? No, not necessarily.

The ultimate goal of life is to gain happiness, but happiness does not equal to excel in academics.

Have you heard of a story: when a kid who is academically excellent go to work, she/he will help carrying bags for those who are not good at academics. Why? They are trained to lead a life which is conservative and secured. They would not risk their life to go for adventure. However, kids who are average in everything, they tend to try every possibility to survive, finally reach a good achievement in their career.

One who excels in everything does not necessarily guarantee life is A Plus and will obtain happiness, and vice versa.

Therefore, kids who are not good at academic scores do not mean they do not deserve happiness.

Life has many unexpected destination, too many aspects to take care and to explore. Life is like an adventure, you will never know the answer of life at the very beginning, and no need to sacrifice the funs of life.

Then, how do we look at children’s education? Please search for kids’ talent, and cultivate the kids’ talent in a positive way.

Help children to find their real interest and spark their true happiness is the most important thing!
What is the kids’ talent? What kind of talent needs to be cultivated?

If the kids easily perform the outstanding ability compare with other kids, then it’s the kids’ talent. Observe your kids, you will discover every kid will have his/her outstanding ability. It might be the skill, knowledge, sports, arts, speech, creativity, or personality.

If the kids will practice at their own will, and strengthen their talent, try to be the master, it indicates that it is the interest of the kids. And you need to help the kid to nurture her /his talent.

Each kid has its character and talent, emphasized on the talent of the kid. Happy future should be supported by happy childhood. Therefore, there is no need to sacrifice kids’ childhood. Games are important!

Don’t forget, no matter how outstanding the kid is, she/ he is worth treasured and loved and has the right of pursuing happiness.

If you are a A Plus Kid, congratulations! You will grow in full confidence and applause. But don’t forget, the world will revolve for everyone. Everyone exists for its own unique value. Treat others sincerely, and others will bring benefit to you.

If you are like me, who equals to Average Kid, don’t give up, explore your talent.

Please believe, there is no one who is given up by happiness, only one who abandons happiness. Therefore, always remember to make use of inner gift, make oneself to stand at the side of happiness. Be the one who really knows oneself, and be the one who really knows the needs of the kids.

I dedicate this book to my A Plus Kid, who always inspires and encourages me to write this book.

Memi is an author of seriously practicing "cherishing happiness" in her own small world, focusing on the light of happiness, and wish that her stories would warm up those who seek for happiness.

童年該被犧牲嗎？把書念好最重要嗎？

考試第一名的人，長大後才會出人頭地嗎？

書念不好的小孩，以後就沒希望嗎？

成績樣樣一百分的孩子是不是就叫做「優秀」？

成績總是差強人意的孩子是不是就叫做「不優秀」？

為了讓孩子長大後成為體制內「優秀」的精英份子，是不是應該讓孩子從小拼命補習，加強課業？晚睡早起無遊戲？只求贏在起跑點及往後的每一點？

需要嗎？其實不需要！！！

人生的終極目標是要獲得幸福，但幸福並非等於學校考試成績或是比賽成績。

聽過一個說法嗎？從小成績名列前十名的小孩，長大出社會...

成長的背景Background of Growing Up

心路的歷程Spiritual journey

改變的命運Destiny Changes

幸福的覺醒The awakening of happiness

成長的背景Background of Growing Up

心路的歷程Spiritual journey

改變的命運Destiny Changes

幸福的覺醒The awakening of happiness